I've been natural for about 9 years but I finally decided to Loc in 2004. It was difficult for me at first because I was so sensitive to what my family and close friends thought. My mom and sister was hairstylist so they really dogged me out when I told them about going natural. I was told that I would look like a boy, look gay, not feminine enough. So I inhaled those words and it held me hostage for a couple of years. I wore my hair in a bun for like 2 years straight until my hair started thin'n out in the center where the hair piece was...i was like, "no way hose"
What gave me the courage to stop worrying about what others thought of my appearance and go for what I wanted was a statement my grandmother made to me.
One day I stopped by her house to pick up something before I was to head to church. She was like, "where are you going," I'm like to church. She then said, you are always in church, in a mocking tone,(now just a couple of years early she was on my case about going to the clubs 24/7). As I was driving, I thought to myself…I be dayum if I do, be dayum if I don't. I'm trying to live right and do right and I still get persecuted. That very day, I made up in my mind that I would do what was best for me. What made me happy; I was getting my locs…
On October of 2004, I got my locs…now I did go through that ugly stage but it definitely built up my confidence as a woman. I have no regrets and it just liberated me mind, body and soul. For those of you who are worried about what others may think or say, I say to you, it's your life, it's your hair and at the end of the day, you are the only one who has to be happy!!!
You sister with naps,
Tamara J
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